Our homes are our most personal, most intimate spaces – even the best houseguests disrupt our lives. If you’re looking forward to visiting with friends and family this season, communication is key. These quick tips will help you make the most of your time together and avoid stress or hard feelings.
Dinner or a Party
When hosting a party, include both the start and end times in the invitation and let your guests know what to expect. Include what kinds of food to expect, the attire, and any special activities you have planned – for example, if you’ve hired a photographer for a rare extended family photo, let everyone know to gather at 6 p.m. in front of the fireplace for photos.
At the end of the night, wrap things up with your guests. Gather their coats and belongings, pack up some dessert for them to take home, and move the conversation to the entryway. To usher out lingering guests, put away the food and drinks, stop the music, and start cleaning up. One particularly clever way to make sure the party ends on time is to plan an outing at the end of the party – like a stroll through a local holiday light display or a movie.
Overnight houseguests
When hosting overnight guests, again, include the end time in the invitation and let your guests know what to expect. Before the visit begins, discuss transportation, arrival time, departure time, accommodations, and house rules. For example, will they be sleeping in the guest room or on the couch? Are there allergies or food preferences to consider? Do they understand that foul language is not allowed in front of the kids? And is everyone very clear on the last day? Plan activities during the visit, and plan for downtime as well. Overplanning will leave everyone tired and tense with little time for relaxation. Try scheduling one main activity per day, and don’t be afraid to plan independent time too so your guests can explore on their own. Provide a map with your favorite places marked or a visitor’s guide highlighting events and attractions in the area.
Sources: psychologytoday.
